Ladies, here’s how to cope with low libido. Tell yourself your sex drive will fluctuate

Turns out, coping with low libido is as easy as believing that your sex drive can change. According to the study conducted by the University of Waterloo, women who believe that their sex drive will change over time are better able to handle difficulties with sexual desire.

The team of researchers sought to determine how a woman’s belief about sexual desire as either changing or unchanging over time affects her ability to cope with desire difficulties, such as problems getting in the mood or maintaining arousal.

Their findings suggested that women, who see their sexual desire as variable and rate themselves as likely to have problems with it, are less likely to behave negatively by ignoring or avoiding the sexual problem. Conversely, they also found that women who believe that desire is unchanging are less likely to try to overcome sexual-desire problems when they arise. The participants did not have a diagnosis of any clinical sexual dysfunction.

“Women who believe that sexual desire levels remain the same may feel that challenges with sexual desire, such as low sex drive, are impossible to overcome and therefore they try to avoid or ignore the problem,” said Siobhan Sutherland, the study’s lead author.

In two online studies, the researchers randomly assigned readings designed to result in different beliefs about sexual desire. The participants were then asked to indicate how true it is that they have experienced or are likely to experience a problem with sexual desire. They then completed a test to measure how they handle desire problems.

“Our findings suggest that holding a belief that sexual desire changes over time may protect women against responding helplessly to their sexual problems,” said Sutherland. “Gaining a better understanding of how women’s beliefs affect their coping with sexual desire challenges can help to refine psychological interventions for women’s problems with sexual desire.” The researchers surveyed 780 women of mixed ages and ethnicities in the US. The findings appear in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.