5 Reasons Why Most Indian Women Find It Difficult To Achieve An Orgasm

Well, we aren t saying this about every women. Yes, there are women who take lead in bed, know what exactly they want out of their romp and how to pleasure their partner.

But that s not the majority, that s just a minority of women who are self-aware and know what it is like to have orgasmic pleasure.For the rest of the majority, often sex is a chore. While a woman might be excited about sex but experiencing an orgasm is something most of them miss. Around 70 percent of Indian women might have not experienced an orgasm or just don t know what an orgasm is all about. This isn t restricted to the rural women but also the educated urban clan, says Niyatii N Shah, sexuality educator, Mumbai. Here she decodes what makes it difficult for Indian women to achieve orgasmic pleasure.

1. Most women from a very early age are taught not to talk (or think) about sex

For most Indian girls and also grownups there is a deep rooted psychological stigma attached to sex and the opposite gender. Most of her growing years, she is taught that it isn t good to touch or feel her private parts, to cover up herself adequately and it doesn’t stop here, our culture imposes it on them that sobriety is in keeping her body protected. From an early age she is asked not to sit crossed legs, wear clothes that runs below her knees, wear shorts under her skirts, what-have-you. All this molds her into a women who’s confidence on her body is usually faltering. When this type of psychological upbringing becomes a part of her psyche, it is difficult for her to break the barriers and explore the joys of intimacy and sex. This is why women become less responsive during sex. Sex for most women isn t a two-way communication. Once the act is over her excitement spirals down and orgasm is something she doesn t get a chance to experience at all. In fact, nobody has ever assured her that she has an equal right to achieve an orgasm or even demand for one.

2. Most women are taught that sex is all about pleasing the man

Another Indian psychology that women are fed on is that they ought to keep her husband or partner happy in bed, and it s her duty to oblige to her man s demand. This makes it more difficult for her to be an equal in the act. So when the entire idea of sex becomes a duty to her husband, there is even lesser chance for the woman to desire for an orgasm or communicate to her partner about her needs. Forget about achieving multiple orgasms, in such a scenario; a woman might not even be able to experience one pleasurable orgasm during the act.

3. Most women are not even aware that penile intercourse is not the only way to achieve an orgasm

Sometimes a man might be equally interested to give his woman an orgasm but then just trying the conventional way might not be enough. Since most women aren t aware of their body and their erogenous zones they are unable to guide their husband or partners to help them achieve pleasure. For some women a penile intercourse might not be enough, nipple stimulation or clitoris stimulation instead can give her a high. But since she has never tried pleasuring herself or touching her body parts she isn t able to share her experience and say what works for her. Her partner in this case might be equally helpless.

4. Most women relate sex with an emotional quotient

Sometimes the emotional burden of the relationship takes a toll on her which makes her sex life go for a toss. For most women, sex and emotions go hand-in-hand. If she feels strongly for a person or is happy, then sex is more pleasurable. Orgasm turns out to be a stress buster and initiates bonding. But for most men, an emotional intimacy isn t a necessity to achieve physical closeness. This can happen to couples who are in a troubled relationship, where a partner is just looking to fulfil a need. Many women prefer to be quite in such situation and oblige to her man s need. There is no question of an orgasm being reached in such a case. So it is important for both partners to work on the relationship first before trying to achieve new heights in bed.

5. Most women don t know that they can ask for help to make their sex life better

Sometimes the problem might not be about relationships or lack of self-awareness; it could be a medical problem too. Like, a woman might also be asexual or suffer from conditions like dyspareunia, vaginal pain due to medical reasons. In such conditions having sex in itself is a challenge, forget about an orgasm. It is necessary that a woman seeks help, visit a gynaecologist, sexologist, counsellors, educators to overcome her problems.